I don't know, I had some thoughts and some time, so I put them together.Why is it that people never seem to recognize their own importance in the world? People have problems grasping the facts on how important they are to other people. Ask anyone and they would probably agree that there are three very distinct types of opinions on how important a person is to the world.
1. The people who think they mean more than anyone and anything else. These people think that everyone else's lives should resolve around them. We've all met them.
2. The people who think they are absolutely meaningless to everyone. This is the group I'm focusing on now. They fail to see how much they are cared for by others.
3. The third group, is also the smallest. It is the group of people who spent their time and their efforts on keeping peace between the other two groups. Some might say this is the least favorable group to be a part of, some might say its the most rewarding.
So, I'm guessing that at least one person who reads this has had a time in their life when they felt that nobody was there for them. It's that generally horrible feeling that no-one gives a damn about what I give a damn about. Right? You've had it, I've had it, we all have had it at one point. It's sort of a natural thing to experience though, because sometimes there aren't any signs to prove the theory wrong. But what you have to understand is, that the signs may not be showing up on your radar but they are there.
We grow up this way, and to be honest its how most of us spend our entire lives. As children we got upset about Mom not buying us that candy-bar and that it was just because Mom didn't understand how important the new blue-berry flavor was to us. As teenagers we faced social problems at school and probably at home as well. Isolation is how we deal with our problems because that is how we were brought up.
How many of you could see and knew perfectly well when your parent or other family member had a problem, but when you tried to help them they shrugged you off and pretended to be alright. Most of the time, they did it for our sakes. Most of the time the only reason they did this was to protect us from having to face a problem that was probably too much for us at the time anyway, but also to keep us out of a loop they did not want us to fall into like they had. But what this actually did instead was, it instilled that same reclusive nature into us. So now, when we are growing up and growing older, we too will pull away from someone who tries to help us.
In many cases this causes the would-be-helpers to think you are fine, or that you just want to deal with the problem on your own. So, they leave you alone like you "wanted". It is only when you sit in a dark room alone later down the road do you come to think that nobody cares about you and your problems. When all along they are standing outside your door waiting for you to let them in the room!
Now, of course there are going to be times when people are just going to be rude, clueless, or ignorant as well. It may not be your fault at all that you are left to face a problem alone. Sometimes, it is through facing this that we find out who our real friends are. We find out who will be there for us for what problems and who wouldn't be there for other problems. So if you find out that you don't have a friend for the life problem you are facing now, what do you do? Well, like with anything in life you have a choice...
You can aim to find a friend who can help you with this problem. This can be a refreshing change in pace. Sometimes you might even find that you already had a friend who was fit for the job but you never expected them to answer the call. Sometimes you have to be forward and upfront, because its usually the quiet ones in the back that are most willing and able to help you.
But there is also one other solution to everything I've said far. Fix it yourself.
True, we function better in times of struggle when we have help, but ultimately a personal problem is a personal problem. No matter how many friends or family you have behind you who would march with you to hell and back, you are still the leader. They can be advisers, aids, assistants...but you are the leader in your life. That is what makes you important to the world around you. You have been giving a chance to live a life, with all of these people and affect them in ways most of us don't even realize we are doing. Just as they help us, you help them. Even if it is unknowingly. If they are truly your friend, and if they truly love you, then just knowing your in the world makes them happier than they would be otherwise. Sometimes it may seem like your alone, or that something refuses to go your way. Perhaps, the whole world seems to refuse to go your way. But seeming to be alone and being alone are two totally different things.
Sometimes we even push people away because they aren't what we "had in mind". Sometimes, we look past the fact that a certain person is perfect for the job that they need and want to work in your life for simplistic reasons. "They aren't attractive enough." or "They aren't popular enough." or perhaps something reversed from that, "I'm not good enough for him/her". But your wrong, because they wouldn't even be in your life at all if they felt that way, and they wouldn't be trying to be in your life if they didn't think it would be worth both of your time.
So in conclusion, I state the obvious. Keep everyone close, and don't push people away. They are there for a reason. I'm here for a reason. You are here for a reason.
Thank you.
Edited by user 28 August 2011 22:08:40(UTC)
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