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Offline Captain Insano  
#101 Posted : 10 August 2009 02:02:59(UTC)
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Fair enough then...perhaps quoting who you were directing it at may avoid confusion?

In any case, back to what cam was saying...sure common sense dictates that you dont do this and that around your children it but I think the children need to be protected in some way. It's not fair on them that you may be smoking around them or using recreational drugs, they dont have a choice in the matter.

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#102 Posted : 10 August 2009 02:17:44(UTC)
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I'm not trying to make a debate about this now, but Quoting isn't necessary when your point is solid.
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#103 Posted : 10 August 2009 02:31:42(UTC)
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Drugs and alcohol are the last thing you should approve when it comes to parenting.
Ask A Doctor, Ask the Police, Ask a Psychologist and see what they will tell you.

As I've said already, parenting is not done by some book where everything is an absolute right or wrong. Families on the continent grow up around alcohol and learn to respect alcohol. If you respect alcohol then statistically speaking you are less likely to go out and binge drink in the park with your friends when you are 15. That is obviously not going to work for every single family, but it does work for large numbers.

Telling your kids "alcohol is bad, stay away from it" and they are going to go "oooh, I wonder why it's so forbidden, lets give it a go." And because they are a teenager they are going to be quite reckless and drink a large quantity because the effects don't hit you immediately. And so they could end up needing their stomach pumped.

Again, it works on the continent. They have a much more mature attitude to alcohol and don't have the huge binge drinking issues that the United Kingdom has.

Since you are so keen on quoting from the bible, here's a story from it for you. God made man. And then he nicked a rib and made woman. And God said "yo homies, every here is free for you to help yourself to. Well...except this one tree, the tree of knowledge. Don't eat the fruit from that tree." "Why not?" "Coz I said so, and I'm clearly smarter than you." "Hmmmm." God then goes away. Eventually, Eve thinks his back is turned and so grabs the fruit and takes a bite because you just have to know why this is forbidden. I mean if it's forbidden, it must be good. That's human nature.
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#104 Posted : 10 August 2009 02:38:49(UTC)
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forkboy wrote:
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Drugs and alcohol are the last thing you should approve when it comes to parenting.
Ask A Doctor, Ask the Police, Ask a Psychologist and see what they will tell you.

As I've said already, parenting is not done by some book where everything is an absolute right or wrong. Families on the continent grow up around alcohol and learn to respect alcohol. If you respect alcohol then statistically speaking you are less likely to go out and binge drink in the park with your friends when you are 15. That is obviously not going to work for every single family, but it does work for large numbers.

Telling your kids "alcohol is bad, stay away from it" and they are going to go "oooh, I wonder why it's so forbidden, lets give it a go." And because they are a teenager they are going to be quite reckless and drink a large quantity because the effects don't hit you immediately. And so they could end up needing their stomach pumped.

Again, it works on the continent. They have a much more mature attitude to alcohol and don't have the huge binge drinking issues that the United Kingdom has.

Since you are so keen on quoting from the bible, here's a story from it for you. God made man. And then he nicked a rib and made woman. And God said "yo homies, every here is free for you to help yourself to. Well...except this one tree, the tree of knowledge. Don't eat the fruit from that tree." "Why not?" "Coz I said so, and I'm clearly smarter than you." "Hmmmm." God then goes away. Eventually, Eve thinks his back is turned and so grabs the fruit and takes a bite because you just have to know why this is forbidden. I mean if it's forbidden, it must be good. That's human nature.



What kind of parent approves drugs and alcohol to their kids.

Like I aid, ask the experts,

Ask A Doctor, Ask the Police, Ask a Psychologist and see what they will tell you.
Then tell me if its right or wrong.
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#105 Posted : 10 August 2009 02:41:21(UTC)
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d'oh! Honestly, there's a point where debate stops being a debate and starts becoming both sides repeating the same thing over and over. So until someone else chirps in, I'm done with this thread.
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#106 Posted : 10 August 2009 02:49:46(UTC)
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Answer this question

Ask A Doctor, Ask the Police, Ask a Psychologist, what would they tell you about giving your kids drugs and alcohol?
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#107 Posted : 10 August 2009 02:53:07(UTC)
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stephaniewazhere wrote:
Answer this question

Ask A Doctor, Ask the Police, Ask a Psychologist, what would they tell you about giving your kids drugs and alcohol?


They would say it's bad. But they aren't the ones parenting your child, right? If you listen to everything they say, you're an idiot and your child will be so sheltered from real life that they won't be able to function independently in society.
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#108 Posted : 10 August 2009 03:03:04(UTC)
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troymazing wrote:
stephaniewazhere wrote:
Answer this question

Ask A Doctor, Ask the Police, Ask a Psychologist, what would they tell you about giving your kids drugs and alcohol?


They would say it's bad. But they aren't the ones parenting your child, right? If you listen to everything they say, you're an idiot and your child will be so sheltered from real life that they won't be able to function independently in society.



They are professional and is about them telling me if it is safe or not. It it isn't about them controlling my parenting skills, I ain't going to put my child in danger. This has nothing to do with them being sheltered. They can still enjoy the outside and be kids, just not do drugs or drink. Last time I checked doing drug and drinking isn't part of a healthy life style for grown ups why should it be for kids.

I can't believe I'm actually debating on whether or not kids and teens should do drugs and drink.
And Look at you because I'm not your friend now, you say this, find that so pathetic and sad.


And tell me, So if a Doctor tells you "make sure the kid only takes only one pill before the meal". And you go and say. "Oh no but I'm his parent, I'll give him two pills and after he finishes his meal. Because I'm th parent and is my way.

Hell no, you must either be retorted or abusive.


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#109 Posted : 10 August 2009 03:06:00(UTC)
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stephaniewazhere wrote:
troymazing wrote:
stephaniewazhere wrote:
Answer this question

Ask A Doctor, Ask the Police, Ask a Psychologist, what would they tell you about giving your kids drugs and alcohol?


They would say it's bad. But they aren't the ones parenting your child, right? If you listen to everything they say, you're an idiot and your child will be so sheltered from real life that they won't be able to function independently in society.



They are professional and is about them telling me if it is safe or not. It it isn't about them controlling my parenting skills, I ain't going to put my child in danger. This has nothing to do with them being sheltered. They can still enjoy the outside and be kids, just not do drugs or drink. Last time I checked doing drug and drinking isn't part of a healthy life style for grown ups why should it be for kids.

I can't believe I'm actually debating on whether or not kids and teens should do drugs and drink.
And Look at you because I'm not your friend now, you say this, find that so pathetic and sad.


And tell me, So if a Doctor tells you "make sure the kid only takes only one pill before the meal". And you go and say. "Oh no but I'm his parent, I'll give him two pills and after he finishes his meal. Because I'm th parent and is my way.

Hell no, you must either be retorted or abusive.




Steph, you were an idiot whether we were getting along or not. Of course I would give my child one pill. You don't understand what the people here say to you, and you just get mad and say the same thing over and over again.
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#110 Posted : 10 August 2009 03:13:52(UTC)
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troymazing wrote:
stephaniewazhere wrote:
troymazing wrote:
stephaniewazhere wrote:
Answer this question

Ask A Doctor, Ask the Police, Ask a Psychologist, what would they tell you about giving your kids drugs and alcohol?


They would say it's bad. But they aren't the ones parenting your child, right? If you listen to everything they say, you're an idiot and your child will be so sheltered from real life that they won't be able to function independently in society.



They are professional and is about them telling me if it is safe or not. It it isn't about them controlling my parenting skills, I ain't going to put my child in danger. This has nothing to do with them being sheltered. They can still enjoy the outside and be kids, just not do drugs or drink. Last time I checked doing drug and drinking isn't part of a healthy life style for grown ups why should it be for kids.

I can't believe I'm actually debating on whether or not kids and teens should do drugs and drink.
And Look at you because I'm not your friend now, you say this, find that so pathetic and sad.


And tell me, So if a Doctor tells you "make sure the kid only takes only one pill before the meal". And you go and say. "Oh no but I'm his parent, I'll give him two pills and after he finishes his meal. Because I'm th parent and is my way.

Hell no, you must either be retorted or abusive.




Steph, you were an idiot whether we were getting along or not. Of course I would give my child one pill. You don't understand what the people here say to you, and you just get mad and say the same thing over and over again.



Your so pathetic, if you can't debate get the hell out, If your going to call someone an idiot, make sure your not one yourself. Anyway, I understand what they are saying to me, And I am not mad unlike you who is taking this personally. I am just DEBATING, and your now coming in here trying to make me look wrong, if we were friends you would have not come on here saying all this bullshit to make me look wrong. You are so pathetic troy.











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#111 Posted : 10 August 2009 03:16:26(UTC)
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I'm trying to debate, just like everyone else here. But when you get involved, it kind of ruins things because you're impossible to debate with. MAKING YOUR TEXT BIG AND RED JUST MAKES YOU LOOK STUPID. You are 20 fucking years old, grow up.

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#112 Posted : 10 August 2009 03:18:27(UTC)
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troymazing wrote:
I'm trying to debate, just like everyone else here. But when you get involved, it kind of ruins things because you're impossible to debate with. MAKING YOUR TEXT BIG AND RED JUST MAKES YOU LOOK STUPID. You are 20 fucking years old, grow up.


I make these points colorful because I was tough in college that children and teenagers learn more when things are bolded and they are in colored text.

Your not trying to debate because all your doing is talking about me and how stupid you think I am and all this blah blah bla bullshit.
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stephaniewazhere wrote:
troymazing wrote:
I'm trying to debate, just like everyone else here. But when you get involved, it kind of ruins things because you're impossible to debate with. MAKING YOUR TEXT BIG AND RED JUST MAKES YOU LOOK STUPID. You are 20 fucking years old, grow up.


I make these points colorful because I was tough in college that children and teenagers learn more when things are bolded and they are in colored text.

Your not trying to debate because all your doing is talking about me and how stupid you think I am and all this blah blah bla bullshit.


Which is EXACTLY what you were doing to me.

Anyway, back on topic, the proffessionals obviously are going to be right, and they are right. Drink and drug's are bad for you. But the point is, are you going to make the choice for yourself, and make a judgement, or are you going to do what people say the whole time. Because one day, the people that are telling you will get it wrong.
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#114 Posted : 10 August 2009 03:28:29(UTC)
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personally i like to take the liberal viewpoint that everyone should make their own choice. It is up to them what they do with their lives and if they want to take drugs to make it seam better for them who am i to say no? Wasn't hash made illegal simply because Hemp was threatening the timber industry, and thus a smear campaign was started against it thats still going on?
I hate it when people see me at the supermarket and they are like:
Hey, what are you doing here?
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Oh you know, hunting elephants
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#115 Posted : 10 August 2009 03:44:54(UTC)
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Yes, there was a smear campaign and it was pretty over the top. The people just lapped it up because they were generally too blithe and ignorant to know otherwise. It could have been different during Nixon's term in office when he had commissioned a study into the effects of weed following the 60's and a commision set up for it came back saying that it should be legalized. The obvious thing was to tear the report up because Nixon hated hippies and launch the highly idiotic war on drugs. Thus it continues and shows no sign of ending.
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#116 Posted : 10 August 2009 07:02:20(UTC)
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forkboy wrote:
What you do to your body is your choice. In much the same way, what you do around your children is your choice.

Legislating what can and cannot go on in your own property is beyond farcical. Yes, common sense dictates that you shouldn't get high around your kids, but common sense also dictates not smoking around your kids. Well guess what, that's not a crime. And nor should it be, realistically.


Jumping onto an old post, my dad when he was here grew weed in the garden shed, and smoked it on a frequent basis around myself, and my mother, with little regard for our personal health. Hell, he even grew it in the bedroom at one point, and let the cats eat the leaves so they became ill.

Sadly, it's a whole grey area indeed as to what you can and can't do in your own home regarding smoking as a whole, especially around children... The general unwritten consensus if that the majority have the respect not to do it, but hey ho, there's always people who are different.

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What you do to your body is your choice. In much the same way, what you do around your children is your choice.

Legislating what can and cannot go on in your own property is beyond farcical. Yes, common sense dictates that you shouldn't get high around your kids, but common sense also dictates not smoking around your kids. Well guess what, that's not a crime. And nor should it be, realistically.


Jumping onto an old post, my dad when he was here grew weed in the garden shed, and smoked it on a frequent basis around myself, and my mother, with little regard for our personal health. Hell, he even grew it in the bedroom at one point, and let the cats eat the leaves so they became ill.

Sadly, it's a whole grey area indeed as to what you can and can't do in your own home regarding smoking as a whole, especially around children... The general unwritten consensus if that the majority have the respect not to do it, but hey ho, there's always people who are different.


There should be a law about it, even if it's not taken seriously by 50% of people. If anything it will raise awareness.
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Yes communication is needed with a child, build a relationship. But like I said before. You must be a parent not a friend.
You can have a close relationship by spending time with your kid, going into his games and dong activities together.

Drugs and alcohol are the last thing you should approve when it comes to parenting.
Ask A Doctor, Ask the Police, Ask a Psychologist and see what they will tell you.



Depend's on how old you are, if your 30 I dont suppose many parents would still expect you to treat them like superiors. Even at my age my parent's are very relaxed on things like that.


Um excuse me but no matter what, once you have a kid you are their parent from the day the kid was born til the day you die. Now of coarse once your kid is an adult he will make his own decision but you should always be he's base. Unless, you give your kid to adoption.
You must always have this certain type of respect to your parents. When I was your age I use to think the same way "Oh when I grow Older.... blah blah blah"
And now til this day (well this part is art of my culture) I disrespect my mom and a slap in the face it goes.

Whether you believe in the bible or not this is a good verse
Like it says in the bible
"Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you."


Also, going back to this, I don't know what your talking about here. Obviously as a parent you should always be the parent, thats obvious. But that doesn't mean as you get older you can't develop a more equal, freind like relashonship. Also where you said now til this day, your only 20 Steph, I'm not talking about people your age I'm talking about 30 - onwards.
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#119 Posted : 10 August 2009 12:07:10(UTC)
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Which is EXACTLY what you were doing to me.

Anyway, back on topic, the proffessionals obviously are going to be right, and they are right. Drink and drug's are bad for you. But the point is, are you going to make the choice for yourself, and make a judgement, or are you going to do what people say the whole time. Because one day, the people that are telling you will get it wrong.

This is essentially what the whole topic comes down to for me. Yes, drugs can indeed have a serious impact on your life. I mean you can die if you take too much aspirin. Ultimately though, what I do to my body is my choice and it should not be restricted by anyone. Educate people on the risks and then ultimately treat adults like adults and let them make up their own minds.

I do not want to live in a nanny state where I'm molly-coddled from risk by the government because "Big Brother knows best". The concept of freedom is very important to me, and an important aspect of freedom is the ability to make my own mistakes.

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What hasn't really been addressed in this thread is WHY do people feel the need (and why have we always felt the need) to indulge in highs, lows and psychedelics? It's at least partially a social problem. We use drugs to escape from the drudgery of every day life. It's a break from monotony. It helps you relax from a stressful day, it calms your nerves. Why is it that any social gathering like a wedding or a wake will have plenty of alcohol? Because it helps people socialise more easily.

Improve social issues like homelessness, poverty, exploitation, violence and so forth and you won't eliminate drug use, but you'll reduce it far more effectively than the War on Drugs has managed to do.
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