Quote:Hmmm, you're in a very messy situation that I never been in (single life since birth lol).
But, I do think you guys should discuss the elephant in the room because it's going to get awkward if she comes by again and it's just going to be on replay inside your mind over and over. Maybe she didn't think she needed to tell you, but how you explained it she should have known you guys were more than the average friend. She should have told you she met up with her ex since you guys were getting touchy feely and obviously heading to something much bigger even if you guys fell of for a while.idk, that's my understanding. ●︿●
Ugh I miss the days of when I was single and completely anti-love. So peaceful. Lonely, but sooo damn peaceful.
That's the thing, I kind of think it would only be right to talk about it but the way she completely dodged my one simple question and avoided me just makes me feel so awkward and uncomfortable about the whole situation when I've done nothing wrong. I guess I'm just way too analytical of myself that I can't let myself be rightfully mad or whatever. Crazy. And you're right, we definitely need to talk about where we stand as a couple. I should've thought of that I long time ago.
Quote:This chick is trouble. She withholds a pretty important detail.....AND has him pick her up from your place? She was the one using you. But, now that you know what's up,I'd say you would be using her.. If said thing continues.
Yeah I get that feeling. I was more surprise and disappointed than I was mad but there's a small tiny piece of me that wants to get back at her. I was so willing to let it slide and now I kind of feel like I should show I have a backbone by using her back or something. Yes, I do know that would be petty because she'd end up hurt and I wouldn't care either way, but I can't say I haven't been thinking about it seriously.
Quote:Alright time to take relationship from single people time.
First of all you two need to find out what both of you want from this thing. Noting is better than communication and their need to be some talk about this. If not this could go on for a year or two, it already been going on for my count close to 4 months now? Their nothing wrong with sex buddies. Shoot my friends say I should get some cause you never know, (I can't it just weird to me) but it needa to be know that this is for hook ups ONLY. This isn't for love, this isn't long term, or meeting parents or people they are close to. This is "come over cause I need some company and then leave in the morning." That can be done and it is done a lot so you don't have to think you are "using" someone just cause they are a booty call. Think of it more as I want to spend time and have fun with someone but I don't want to get tied down to anything.
Secondly let's say you did in fact got the feels for this girl. (It explains so much now,) I meet some people that want to date both guys and girls cause well bisexuality and all that. I get it best of both worlds, don't have to worry about strange threesomes. That being said that is a lifestyle, and I know people say they can love more than one person but I call bullshit. Favoritism does happen even if it doesn't with you, you may be thinking that one day she going to kick you to the curb and just ride with her man? (I above that pun to do ride with her ride) He approach you I think because he was feeling that, this girl (you) is going to take her away from me. (Really this is a lot of drama for someone not looking for it)
Third sorry about losing your grandfather. Losing someone close to you is always hard, as my grandma lost her boyfriend three months ago. (One of the most hardest thing ever cause he died close to me, and I never had anyone die in front of me.) So it is hard when someone you know and care die. Being like that you will want to reach out to someone.
This is up to you to do, and I feel like I have the same problem with losing interest and not wanting to deal with the trouble of breaking up with someone. If this is just a fling and it ISN'T going to be serious that is your friend with Benefits then do that. But you need to know if you going to go through this drama and is she worth it. If not then you shouldn't wait your time.
Actually I don't care that you're single lol, when I was younger I would always give advice to my mom and other adults who were close to me. I think when you're on the outside looking in, you can give a more unbiased opinion and look from every view possible so sometimes relationship advice from single people is really the best.
Communication, the sound of it makes me want to gag. I totally get that's the only sensible reaction to this mess but what's going on inside my head is my strongest weapon and trying to stop my thoughts and spill them out to someone is my wooorst nightmare. I just feel so insecure about that. Imagine if she couldn't care less and I'm over here trying to pour my heart out and make some sense of us? I couldn't do it. I think we are definitely sex buddies and that's why I'm really not that mad about the whole thing but SHE is the one who claims that we are more than that and calls me her girlfriend. It's the most confusing thing because she is out here starting branch-relationships.
Bisexuals lol. I think that sums this whole thing up really. I identify as a pansexual because bisexuality is all about preference and through the years I've come to realize that i really don't have one but this is a problem a lot of folks who claim to be bisexual run into, not being able to really commit to the sex they don't prefer. I actually wouldn't mind it if she rode off into the sunset with her ride (god just wait until I write a memoir one day, im going to make this an iconic pun) because when we were at the cafe I completely understood that he was her ex and that they had history and I told him I was willing to back off and let them be together because what they had seemed to be way more serious than whatever we were but he seemed pretty done with her. Do I personally have the feels for her? I don't know, I doubt it. It's probably just the power of her dimples that's making me bend all out of shape.
And yea, thanks. He's been sick for a minute but I only found out recently. I haven't seen him or the rest of my family in ages due to my mom not wanting me to see them back then and because of just pure indifference. We went down to Tampa/Plant City Halloween weekend and I saw him in the hospital and everything. It was nice, getting to see him blink around the room and reunite with my people. I was really convinced he would pull through. Damn, I still can't believe he's gone. I'm sorry for your loss as well. I couldn't imagine seeing someone die in front of my eyes, that must've been crazy.
As to how I'm gonna handle it? I still don't really know. I guess it'll just depend on when I see her next and how I'll deal with it. But thank you guys for commenting and everything, everything you guys posted ha really given me some insight.
