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stephaniewazhere wrote:old.gregg wrote:stephaniewazhere wrote:forkboy wrote:stephaniewazhere wrote:Yeah, but that's the parent s job to educate their kids not to take the alcohol. My friends mom when I was little had alcohol all over her top cabinet and my friend wouldn't dare touch any of the bottles. Now if your children does it anyway as a parent you must stop being selfish and give up drinking so your children wont have access to them. Alternatively, you can introduce your children to alcohol at a relatively young age (in small quantities, and I'm talking about nine or ten, a small glass of wine over dinner, maybe a little taste of your whisky or whatever else). Educate your kids about alcohol. Don't tell them not to do it, because that will have absolutely no effect. Instead, just bring them up so that they are well aware of the concept of drinking responsibly and they'll be fine. There's no need to remove all the alcohol from your house or anything like that, it's just a case of common sense. And it can be exactly the same with legal drugs. Common sense. Alcohol and kids don't match to me. That the #1 mistake parents make (well not really) is not saying no. It is a big issue for a child to be drinking alcohol, it is dangerous and not classy at all. In the US you must be 21 years old and older to drink no exceptions. And when I mean remove alcohol I mean when I kid gets to a point that he is sitting on the floor drunk. No parent should allow there kid to drink alcohol, thee is not such thing as kid drinking responsibly. The bottom line is, if your friends are drinking, and you've never had a drink before, you're gonna try it. Not knowing anything about it is not a good thing. That's why a parent needs to say "NO!" that way when the kid does drink you can punish him/her for not following the rules, otherwise the kid will be like "but you never said drinking is a bad thing or that I couldn't do it" Be a parent not a friend. all i can say about that is WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. first of all, the same elliott said - if you tend to not let your son to do some things, he will have curiosity for it and will always be attracted to it. for example, if a young teen who always got a "no" from his parents in all matters surrounding alcohol, when he is hanging out with his friends and they are drinking, he will probably drink, and the results will be much worse than it would be if he was educated before by his parents. a similar example would be in charlie and the chocolate factory - willy wonka's dad never let him eat chocolate. one day he did and he became addicted to it, because it's something that he always had prohibited and wanted to know about. second, educating your children about drinking alcohol doesn't mean you will let them drink all the time or something like that. for example, my parents let me drink when i'm out, but they wouldn't like it if i drank to much. so i don't. i have a lot of respect to my parents and follow they rules (almost) always. of course that there are different cases, and different people that have less control on themselves, but i think than an average person would do the same. i know my parents won't let me drink 'til i fall, so i don't. i'm not saying i haven't throw up or being drunk, but i try to not break the limit a lot. and, finally - how can you say "be a parent, not a friend"? that's the worst thing i've ever heard concerning this stuff. if you have a distant relation with your parents, you will tend to lose respect for them and do the things they won't let you doing. i have a great relationship with my parents, i tell my mom everything i do and everything that happens to me. she knows that i smoke, drink and smoke with and she teaches me about that (she never smoke weed but knows cases and that). if you can't talk with your parents like a friend, you'll feel that you don't have the contention you need in your house, so you will try to find it in other places - for example, hanging out with people that smoke weed and you see they have a good time and doesn't feel bad at all, so you start doing it. there's a lot of errors in what you said. think about it. |