Ok, so I've been curios. I know some people on here are gay. I am now starting to be open about my sexuality outside and i wanted to know how do you deal with being Gay?

How did you "Came out of the closet" (Did the She wolf song inspire you lol? Did you came out to your family, a friend? Did you came out over the internet like I did?
How do you deal with daily offenses to gay people? For example, like when someone says "Man that is so gay? using it as a negative term.
How do you deal with having a boyfriend or girlfriend kiss you in public? If you are in school, how do you deal with the homophobic?
If you are feminine, how do you deal with your emotions? How do you say I rather talk about fashion then play basketball? How doe it feel being gay and not growing up with a father or mother? How does it feel having your friends judging you after they find out you're gay?


And many more questions... Feel free to add to the list.


If you go on guess mode to see this thread... wow.

Edited by user 21 November 2009 13:02:11(UTC)  | Reason: Not specified

No the person IS referring to something negative. A good example was at work. Our manager requested for everyone to switch duties at the hotel and this guy named Christopher was like, man that is so gay. Why couldn't he say "that sucks", I'm pretty sure he know a heterosexual can do it.

I don't flip a lid when people toss around the term "gay" as an adjective.

I don't make an effort to make my difference known to those around me. Everyone accepts each other.

I kiss my boyfriend/significant other of the time in public. I am yet to be scrutinised.

Even If I were, I would care less.

I talk about fashion to my friends who are interested in fashion. I talk about makeup and hair to the same effect.

My parents really batted no eyelids when I came out.

And lastly, I know I'm perfectly above those who can't accept me for who I am.

End.

Well you most definitely have it easy.


Me I flip when someone tosses the term gay. I find it offensive.

Where I live a place called Earth everyone does not accept each other for who they are.

If I kissed my bf in public, people will throw rocks at me or even worse kill me.

Haven't came out to my parents yet, and don't plan to anytime soon.

And me and I feel like if someone doesn't accept me because I'm gay, I feel dirty and shamed, though I pretend I'm not.

Yeah, I don't really use gay as an insult - at least, not since primary school 11 years ago. The only way it works for me is in that ironic sense where you elongate it out to "gaaaaaaaay" and you use it in situations like "you kissed her? On the lips? That is sooo gaaaaaaaay John." Even then, it's not that funny really. So I tend to use it as a mock insult, like when I'm stating it as matter-of-fact, instead of saying "he's gay," I might say "he's gaaaaaay," pretending it's that childish insult that no-one takes seriously, when actually I mean it seriously. I'm mocking the word itself and those who use it, but really I'm doing it for my own amusement because stretching out words for effect is one of the most childish things you can do with the English language (see "Boooooooooriiiiiiiiinng" or "sleeeeeeeep" or "Eeeeeeeeeeew" or my personal favourite "vaaaaaaaaaaagina!")

I don't know what it's like to be gay, but I always figured it was much the same as being straight. Therefore I find it very annoying when people who are gay are so gay that you can tell just by looking at the way they dress, the way they walk, the way they hang out with girls. But that's more about conforming to stereotypes, because I'm just as annoyed when I see a straight guy who's clearly attractive and knows it, and acts like a completely reprehensible dickhead, and treats his girlfriend like an accessory on his arm. It's that kind of over-confident flamboyance I really can't stand.

Also, is there some scientific correlation between homosexuality and natural pitch of the human voice? Because that media homosexual type, your Dale Winton, your Julian Clarey, your fucking Alan Carr, your Gok Wan... Hey, I'm all for you being gay, but tone it down maybe? Maybe have careers and success not based on "haha I'm so gay! Listen to my SCREECHY VOICE! Look at my SPARKLY SHOES!" That kind of character is the modern equivalent of a eunuch, prancing about like a little girl while the audience points and laughs.

Edited by user 21 November 2009 02:50:49(UTC)  | Reason: Not specified

Then if you feel dirty and shamed, why do you continue? Aren't the things that you feel no shame in being worth being so? If you feel ashamed why continue? Most gays don't feel ashamed about their sexuality despite the social stigma.

I don't know. Its unexplainable. I don't want to stop being me. I will always find guys attractive.

In essence, similar boat, different age, for me.

The gay community pisses me off when they act like its not hard to be open up about being gay. Just because it was cake for you doesn't mean it's going to be cake for everyone else . Its hard to be looked as a liar. That's why it is hard for me to open up about my sexuality to my family. I feel dirty and shamed because all this time I've been lying to them. I guess I can say I'm bisexual since I do find women attractive and I also have had sex with girls. Anyway, living life as gay person is much harder to me. Especially if you are raised in a Christian home.

Edited by user 21 November 2009 04:53:16(UTC)  | Reason: Not specified

It goes deeper than that. I guess you have to be gay to know what I am talking about.

Also I forgot to mention the many reasons I don't have a boyfriend. One reason is because the last boyfriend I had wanted to meet my parents and talk to them and he almost did over the phone and told them I was gay. I snatched the phone away otherwise he would of told them. I'm afraid of that now. See my if my mom found out, she wouldn't hate me but she probably would tell me to go to church and get some help. To get the demon I have inside out of me. She would never accept it as something that I am but something that I have. I don't know how to explain it.

Edited by user 21 November 2009 05:31:32(UTC)  | Reason: Not specified